In today’s post, I’m sharing the top 3 money lessons from my mother.
My mom said a lot of things to me about life, things I now hold very dear.
She talked about being financially independent and the things I needed to do to achieve that.
So, in honor of the upcoming Mother’s Day, I’m going to share 3 money lessons my mother taught me about money growing up.
Lesson 1: Being financially independent
Lesson 2: Saving for your future self
Lesson 3: Being Financially savvy
She repeated them over and over until they became second nature. Today when I think about her, these lessons come to mind.
My mom grew up in a very male-dominated society. For girls to get ahead in their time, a lot needed to happen. One of the ways for this to happen was to become financially independent.
In a previous post, I discussed my father’s cost-sharing plan for teaching kids to be financially independent.
By the time I came along, even though things had improved a lot, girls were still at a huge disadvantage. How they grew up would depend a lot on how the parents choose to treat them, but also on what they learned from those around them.
As research continues to show, parents are still the most powerful influence on their children.
Mothers have a big influence on their girls, especially based on where they grew up.
Today, I can truly say I’m my mother’s daughter!
So, as you read these money lessons from my mother, it might be helpful to dig deep into your attitudes, and your relationship with money.
Don’t be surprised if you start to see your parents in your actions.
Money Lesson 1: Support Yourself Financially
This money lesson from my mother has everything to do with financial independence. Ensure you can always support yourself financially, especially before you settle down.
Don’t put yourself in a position where you stay in a bad situation because you are relying on somebody else to support you financially.
Growing up I saw a couple of my schoolmates drop out of school to have babies.
More often than not the girls would have no way of completing their education, in addition to having to take care of the baby.
They ended up getting married very young, and these marriages didn’t always work out.
Looking back, I now know why this money lesson from my mother was so important.
Education was and still is a big deal in my home country, and is the typical way to improve your situation in life.
The same lesson is very applicable to our kids today – study and get a job, make a living. In the US, kids have more opportunities to make money compared to what we had, but the principle remains, regardless of where they were born.
Figure out how to make a living, enough to support yourself.
Money Lesson 2: Prioritize Saving For The Future
My mother was a big proponent of saving for the future, regardless of how tight your budget was. She was adamant that anytime we got paid, or got some money in our lives, we needed to save some of it (for our future selves).
Her words were “Don’t let your present you bankrupt your future self.”
If you prioritize something, you are most likely going to do it. In your spending plan, have a saving category and make it the first entry in the budget (spending plan).
If having trouble with it, consider thinking of it as a regular expense that needs to be paid for first.
This money lesson from my mother is best implemented if we simplify things and reduce friction.
Reduce The Saving Mental Energy: Automate Your Money Flow
One way to have success is to automate your money flow. Set a certain amount going to the saving/investing category and it will happen.
Reduce the mental energy required to figure out where you are with certain goals!
To make it real, name your saving goals including dates, then create saving buckets to match those goals.
So instead of looking at a pile of money every month in your saving account, do the following instead.
- Create different saving buckets and give them specific names with dates.
“40th Birthday Celebration June 2024”
“6-12 Months Emergency Fund”
“New knee cash payment”
- Do the math once and you are done. e.g.
$xy every month for x number of months – will meet my $2,000 goal by Jan 2024
- Finally set it up and get on with your life.
Money Lesson 3: Become Financially Savvy
The best way to explain this is to quote her.
“If something affects you daily it is important. If it’s that important, then you need to know enough about it to make independent, smart decisions.”
According to her, there was no room for not learning enough about certain subjects if they impacted you in any way.
Money falls neatly into that category and it’s key we learn enough about it to make good decisions.
Being a girl in my society meant having an inbuilt disadvantage, so this was key if I was going to have a chance to succeed.
It was important to learn about the subject or know how to find the correct information.
She exemplified the saying “Knowledge is power.”
Her lesson partly explains why I’m in the industry.
At some point, in my tech journey, I realized I knew very little about the US financial system and how it impacts those with financial ties overseas and those in tech, so I decided to learn everything I could about the system.
There are very many resources to learn about personal finance, but it can be overwhelming trying to figure out where to start.
If you are the DIY type start with Investopedia’s personal finance page, which also includes some books on investing.
Understand your situation and keep in mind, it’s unique, your values are different from your neighbor, and your risk profile is yours.
Use this to evaluate the information out there before you act on it.
The money lessons from my mother have served me very well. Just about everything I do with money can be easily related to one of her lessons.
I’m passing these lessons to my girls, and I hope they pass them on to future generations.
What money lessons did your parents pass on to you?
Originally published in Retirement Answer Man Podcast.
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